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What's the point of being together if there's so many worries being together? Friendship are forever, why start or keep a relationship when it may not last? If secrets can be shared among friends, then why the need of a confidant? Life can be more relaxing if there's no commitment, why the need to be restrain?

Life can be more colourful if there's always different groups of friends to go out with and different activities to move on with; why stick to only going out with one, repeating the usual routine? If there's a tendency of doubting; being betrayed in a relationship, why keeps it? If u still find yourself lonely when u're in a relationship, there's something seriously wrong wif it? If u're keeping too many thoughts to yourself & wants to live life in your own way, why be attached?
Being in love is itself a motivation of life, u start to tink twice in life, for her & for u. The reasons to live a better life emerge, u put aside your carefree mind & wants to shoulder the resposibility of creating security. Worries exist even if u're single, it doesn't really increase because of being in a relationship. In fact a relationship help to focus what life should be. It becomes part of life to write a 'verbal diary' everyday. Secrets, big or small; thoughts, important or just rubbish, it just flows out from the heart. Towards friend, yes u can do the same but how sure r u tt a friend would want to listen or in the first place, can be there for u all the time? Beside each time u have thoughts to share, which friend do u go to? Just by thinkin over which friend shd u look for, u'll realise tt how lonely u are in tis world; and this feelin of loneliness is devastating. And being a friend, have u ever think twice before sharing a secret, or rather most of e time, a problem? Have it ever come across your mind tt he may be equally troubled or even worst, and the last thing tt he would like to hear is another sad story from u? Though he'll still do if u need him to, but just felt tt tt's a pretty easily overlooked selfish act. U give & take and learn everyday in a relationship. U accept and try things tt u never use to do or even tot of tryin. And what's important, u've did it all for good; what other variety of activities would u want in life? Everyday is never the same if you live it right. Life progresses every second if u know tt u've a role to be in. One tot leads to a million. Keeping things up is never healthy, it'll jus drift two souls apart without knowing.


	<<Entry 9>> J.A.F February 17, 2006 07:38 PM PST Perhaps U are wondering by now, y i 'bother to write so much'. Is it? It's not a 'bother or not' thing. i guess its simply bcos, while U hav lifted me wiv ur "fallen times & at other times, picked yourself up" , i hav an obligation as a friend to do what's in my power to lift U back. Up. And if you're oso wondering how come i can "understand" on a level, many of the things mentioned. Bcos i can identify bah. Becos i lost sthg, & that loss affected me deeply. .. Such that i went thru' an intense period of: 1)try to understand myself betta, in the hope dat i will not take the people around me for granted. i hav since improved my r'ship wiv family. 2)try to understand the closest peo around me, so can be a more useful support for them. .. U gotto strengthen your inner self first. Develop faith. And, take care.


	<<Entry 8>> J.A.F February 17, 2006 07:30 PM PST "Just by thinkin over which friend shd u look for, u'll realise tt how lonely u are in tis world; and this feelin of loneliness is devastating." -- Guess im fortunate to hav group of old frens wiv me,& can always turn to one key gal. So i realised tt wif wat i hav, when i make new frens, esp those whom we can communicate, i try to be there for those who may not hav close fren.. As to the below, i would not agree.. U gotto hav more faith. "And being a friend, have u ever think twice before sharing a secret, or rather most of e time, a problem? Have it ever come across your mind tt he may be equally troubled or even worst, and the last thing tt he would like to hear is another sad story from u?" Becos U see,... in helping to provide some solution to another (true) fren, i can slowly heal myself in the process,if i happen to oso hav problem. Sthg like, as i read into your stories, (even thou' U hav not been blogging for long, even thou U are not here) i see some light into my own issue. Becos, someone actually feels certain things in a certain way, which mirrors what i feel at this point. So no, wont impose on a friend if he's someone who has always been able to understand U. (which means hav to choose correctly, for such moments of need.)