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A world of my own, my own life, my own tots, my own language...
First Cry: 3rd Sept 78'
MSN: pigu_farr82@hotmail.com
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Sunday, August 07, 2005
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A gift is a gift; no matter what it is, the receiver of a gift should not reject a gift. Have always enjoy preparing a gift for others, but i guess it's not easy to come out with one most of the time. One that suit a person or even represented tis person that makes it the ultimate gift. A pleasant surprise is good most of the time, but many time it's really the thought that count. A moment of laughther is itself a great gift and that's not very difficult to create. Jus by mentioning to the receiver that he will be expecting a gift and keeping him in suspension of what it is, is itself a gift. Even if after keeping someone in suspension and end up not giving any gift, this gesture itself can be a gift if the giver knows how to put it in such a way tt can cause all to burst out laughing over the stupidity of it. The excitement caused to the receiver while waiting is itself a gift. But many disagrees with me, find that it's such an unclassly cheap shot. What can i say, my stand is still laughther is priceless... Putting extra effort into researching the likes of one and then figure out what gift can be given to her is a pleasant thing but things may jus turn out the other way... Sometimes, whatever effort put in, the strength, the time, the killing of brain cells, ignoring of ones health or other works in hand... will only ended wif the receiver jus accepting the gift as jus a gift. Taking it, looking thru it, keeping it and that's it. But tt's what define a gift also, for someone to keep, to reminds one of the existance of tt giver in the future, tt's all. In a way giving a gift is such a stupid gesture but still when an occasion arises, some pple will jus go all out to prepare it, like a gift can cause a miracle to happen... naive... |
Posted at 10:20 pm by Farrker
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Monday, July 18, 2005
An absolute confidant, a soul mate?
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Due to my bad vocab in English, only come across this word recently. Confidant: a person whom one tells one's secret or with whom one talks about personal matters. I feel that at any one time if there is an absolute confidant for anybody, it will be the soul mate of that person then. Confidants often exist as people do share secrets or personal matters once a while with close friends or relatives but I believe there should be one absolute confidant for everybody, who is usually of a different sex. Without probing, one tends to talk about himself to this particular person like he would to his diary whenever he can. To me, it can be none other then one's soul mate that has such opportunity and privilege of knowing one's secrets. But there and then again, there's always a possibility that a soul mate is not one's absolute confidant; which then I feel will be a great tragic. Much as i cannot imagine how a person end up being a soul mate when he's not the confidant of his love, i do believe nothing is impossible in this world. Think that in this case for both, the soul mate or the absolute confidant of one if they're not the same person, will be very pathetic in life... |
The absolute confidant of a girl who know so much of her will try to find ways and means of bringing her up when she's down, finding solution to her problems and sharing her joy and happiness. But he will not be the one who can gives her hug of comfort when she is down; and is not the one who receives hug & kisses of joy when she is happy. On the other hand, the soul mate gets to play the roles of those that were mentioned which i believe just by the thought of hugging would have caused the absolute confidant to feel unjust. But if one day comes that the soul mate realised that there are so many things that he has been missing out from his love's memory, that would have just been as bad. For all you know, he may be thinking then what's the point of being a couple all these while; it's always a sad thing to know that secrets are being hidden from someone you know, not to mention a soul mate... My stands are clear, make the absolute confidant of your life your soul mate or treat your soul mate as your absolute confidant; think it make more sense living life this way...
Posted at 12:28 am by Farrker
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Sunday, July 10, 2005
 'Memories invaded the future', i've once mentioned. Will one ever forget another in the future? Especially if tis special one person has ever walks into your life, leave a scar, did something different that changes your views of life, shows u in acheiving what u tink is impossible. I remember in a movie, one character advised his friend to tried wif reversed psychology; tink about who u wanted to forget everyday, move on wif life. When one fine day, while u're doing something, e.g.bathing, u suddenly remember tis person who u've wanted to forget, tt's where u've done it, u've already forgotten tis person... If only forgetting a person is tt easy, then there will not be any sad person in tis world. I tink otherwise: if 1) [A] has been longing to know [B] for a period of time but never had a reason to start a conversation; 2) [A] tink of every possibility of knowin [B] and finally bring out his courage and put his tots into actions; 3) [A] managed to know [B] and becomes very good friend; 4) at the end, [A] cannot remains how [A] has always been behaving wif [B] for no good reason or for reason tt's beyond [A]'s choice. For such scenario, I do not reckon tt there'll be any possibility tt [A] can forget [B] and highly possible vice versa... So, whatever u choose to do, do think twice for it may not be within one's control to forget another person tt comes into your life...
Posted at 10:57 pm by Farrker
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 U r born into tis world wif the great nature love from god, giving everything tt u see on earth: the sun, the sky, the sea, the land, the greens; giving everything tt u feel on earth: the heat, the breeze, the flow, the hard, the soft; giving everything tt u hear: the classical, the pop, the rock, the rap, the techno; giving everything tt u taste: the sweet, the bitter, the sour, the spicy, the salty; giving everything tt u remember: the sorrow, the happiness, the emberrassed, the proudest, the dissappointed. U r born into tis world wif the care of your guardians who guided u in the beginning of tis life, who are always there if u falls from time to time to provide u wif a shelter and giv u warmth. They bleed and sweat just to see u grow and become independent though they'll never think tt u will. Be it easy or tough they'll try their best in doing so, so don't complaint if u know who they are as it's not their choice to guide u along too; remember, they themselve are just followers too. Love from these guardians comes to u free, it's just how u treasure it.
 Friendships comes in naturally as u start to learn about life. They'll just comes naturally, through classes, schools, activities, events, teamworks, jobs. Most of your lifetime, u'll seek them for advises which at times can be deceiving, leading to a worse life as every individual is still leading a different life, the route of your life is still yours alone. Still, they'll be the one tt u get help from most of the time. Observing and sharing from their experiences and yours is how u all grow together. There's no effort in keeping these love of friendship as true friendships last forever; anytime u need them out of nowhere, if they're available and they can do it, whatever tt u ask from them, be assured of their best and vice versa. So, do choose carefully and have them lasting forever, if they don't, u'll still be fine with those tt does.
 The last love is the one that u yourself has chosen to be wif for the rest of your life. Ironically as it may seems but the love that u dear most should be the one that u had and will continues to put in effort in keeping. It's tis love that give u motivation in living your life, let u see the world with a wider range of colours, tune your senses to the finest to enjoy what is given to u free, fluatuate your emotions to living a more substantial life. It's the love of loves I feel probably because there's always a chance of losing it compared to the other loves tt u'll be receiving in life. So, prioritise what u think is more important and live life right. If u find yourself in difficulty keeping a relationship, at least u know tt there's love in your life tt many has yet to find, all u need is to put in some effort to think about how to work things out together, living life together. That's precisely how one can have an everlasting love as no love of loves is everlasting without effort.
Posted at 10:54 pm by Farrker
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 How many time in life do u encounter your likes conflicting to what's known as the right in the environment u live in? What do u choose? Just watched a show and found the result for the above choices pretty logical. Choose to do the 'Rights', u may lead a wonderful life: able to secured a job, starts a family, get promoted by finishing projects, get your pay raise, go for another project and your life repeats itself. Note, the duration or chances tt u may have for a project or a promotion is not known. But u do at the end of the day realise, yes, u have manage to lead a good normal life, your family basically live a materially good life and that's probably what matters to many people. As for the person who choose to do what he likes, it's pretty simple; he'll not know what he'll end up to be in the future, but one thing for sure, i.e. he is happy now & tt itself is priceless. For all u know following what's right, u may never be happy cos u'll just be too busy with moving on for a better life or rather a more secure life, but when will tt end? Furthermore, what u may not realise thru out your life is u may have been struggling and draining yourself up repeating only one process. Put it simpler, u'll not have any stories to tell or nobody would be interested in hearing about your life when u aged; u will feel so empty at the end of your life. The only happiness that you may find may only comes if u see a guy who have choosen otherwise from the beginning. So, it seems like to me, happiness is a now or never thing cos many things only happen once. Furthermore, what u do right may never be your likes but what u do in regards to your likes, u may be doin the right as well. However, how many times can a person have all other necessary elements that can help him do what he likes; if he does, I sure hope he choose it the Likes way?
Posted at 10:48 pm by Farrker
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Posted at 10:40 pm by Farrker
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 Promises are meant to be broken...
No promise is a promise until it has became a history; it doesn't exist in the present nor the future. 'Promise' itself is a non-sensical word as its existance can never be justified for there's no end to the future. When someone says he/she promises that he/she will or will not do something (in the future), that's crap unless he ends his life there and then.
So, what's there to promise or expect in a relationship for an everlasting happiness or security when nobody knows the future. What's important in life is what you see or feel at this very moment of time; to know that you are breathing and reading through these words that I am writing here, your instantaneous feeling should be all that matters. Why think about what you may not achieve when there's a possibility that it may not have even happened in the first place. But if you can and knows how to make someone happy now, why pull back and worries what comes after... For all you know, this may just be your very last opportunity to do so.
Posted at 10:39 pm by Farrker
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What's the different with living a life and living a lifely life?
One way of looking at it may be by looking at the diagram above. The basis of feeling, happiness and sadness represented by the basis of colours, white and black. If a person is monotonic, just living a life, simply means he will feel either happy or sad towards all matters that he experienced. This also means that this person faces the danger of experiencing extreme fluctuation of feeling; he may be rising to heaven at one moment and be thrown to hell in another. He gets to taste paradise but if he does falls to the extreme low in the next moment, he may not even find his soul, that, which will put him in a state of total devastation. His memories would have already invade his future. Thereafter or otherwise sooner or later he will be living his life with such numbness to whatever that is happening around him, just as if it is a chore to be alive.
On the other hand, if a person is living a lifely life, he will view all matters with a colour; he will look at all matters positively, an optimist perhaps, and coup well with all the problems that he may encounter. He generates directions of looking at matters not that much through experience but also through inspiration and passion. He is forever the happy one for even if things do not work out, he will take it as an opportunity to learn and resolve the matters in another way. Victory may not be the priority in this person life, for happiness may not comes necessary through achieving that. A motivator, having the beliefs of miracle, challenge the impossible, appreciate whatever that is in hand and make the best out of it.
If you ask me, I would prefer being the latter but I guess I falls in the first. So I am always wishing my friends a lifely life. Guess that is what life should be anyway...
Posted at 10:37 pm by Farrker
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Promises are meant to be broken...
